Most of the wedding planning tips that you will find online will pertain to your reception: décor, food, entertainment, etc. One of the few things that you can personalize about your ceremony are your vows. A number of couples decide to write or create their own marriage vows and they do so with their own specific flair. It’s a wonderful way to show the one you love (and your loved ones) how much you love him/her and how you plan to spend the rest of your life showing it.
Do you want to create your own set of vows? VG Invites is here to help. Victoria knows how daunting the task can be. Thousands of poets lament about the difficulty of having to define or explain love. Luckily, love isn’t just this big, ominous emotion. Love is specific to each person and each couple. Here are some tips to help you express those feelings and emotions.
1. Read as many examples as you can find.
Go online or ask your friends about what types of things they had in their vows. There are many different examples on various wedding websites. There are various scripts that you can find online. Find a favorite and personalize it to you, your husband, and your relationship.
You can also take a good look at some of your favorite poems. No one wants to hear you recite hundreds of lines from your favorite limericks and sonnets but one or two lines would be a perfect addition to your vows.
2. Start early
I know it might sound like something that you can throw together in one afternoon, but I suggest that you really take some time with writing your wedding vows. Keep a small, pocket-sized notebook. Whenever you think of something special about your relationship, a phrase or word that you like, or something that makes you think of your significant other, jot it down in your notebook.
Then, about a month or a week before your wedding, put it all together. If you are more of a visual person; you can type up each sentence or word/phrase, print it out, cut it out, then rearrange them until you find the right place for each. Make sure to read it out loud. Not only that, read it to someone else or have someone else read it to see if it flows well.
Coordinate with your significant other to make sure that you both have vows that are around the same length. It will keep things a little smoother and will be more appealing and symmetrical.
3. Personalize your wedding vows.
Throw in some of your inside jokes, stories, and anecdotes. As couples we all have them. Stories from vacations, parties, or even just sitting around watching Netflix. As a couple, we have all accumulated our fair share of jokes and stories. Make references to them in your vows.
4. Talk about the past and the future.
While referencing all of those great times, don’t forget to mention your future together. What plans do you have? What types of promises are you making for your future together?
5. Speak of your love for one another.
I know it sounds ridiculous to even mention but do talk about your love for one another. You don’t have to use cliché lines (and I highly suggest you stay away from them) but you should talk about what you will do for one another, how much you love one another, and talk about other aspects of your love: respect, adoration, trust, communication, etc.
Personalizing this can really add to your vows. Instead of “my love for you is as vast as an ocean,” make it specific. “My love for you is as vast as the Kitsap Lake since we found out ourselves that the lake is endless. I’ll always miss that hat.”
Want to personalize your wedding invitations and thank you cards even more? Take a couple of your favorite lines from your vows and slip them into your stationary as an extra line or get them printed onto your inserts. VG Invites offers some great printing services and extra personalization for your stationary. You can even put some of your favorite lines on personalized signs.
Have you written your own vows before? Do you have any thoughts, suggestions, or questions? Remember to jot them down in the comment section below. VG Invites loves to hear from you!